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...And They Know No Gratitude...
Gratitude, being nearly the greatest of human duties, is also nearly the most difficult,’ wrote G.K. Chesterton.
Recently I trusted a 'friend' with some money, which usually I spent on enhancing the work we do on our channel. He took the money and literary ran! How ungrateful I thought to myself & resented the trust I bestowed upon this individual. My own fault I said, how could I trust an invalid? Really how could I? What happened to friendship? Money will be replaced, but what about his integrity? Can he buy back his integrity or my trust? What about Karma? Don't these ppl believe in God?
Once again you have helped your friend out of another financial jam and, once again, he has shown absolutely no appreciation for your effort. What about last week when you sat & listened to him cry about how unfair life is to him all the time? You have arrived at the point where you are tired of coming to the rescue & never even receiving a simple "thank you." And not only that, but you've always been erroneously judged & accused, just for these suckers to get a good feeling about their loser selves. If these scenarios sound familiar, then you're dealing w an ungrateful person.
It is a hard pill to swallow when you go out of your way to help someone who does not appreciate it. Ungrateful people are part of the world and you will come across them from time to time. It is up to you how much of yourself you are willing to give to these suckers.
Confront: The first thing you should consider doing is talking to this ungrateful person. Let them know how you feel about the way they treat you. Give specific examples of how they stole from you or are otherwise ungrateful. Sometimes these thieves do not realize how rude they are being towards you when they accuse you just to get away and not having to pay you back. Most decent people will apologize & try to change their behavior, but an ungrateful thief will insist on his own lies & make up more to justify his lies.
On the flip side of the coin, this person tries to turn it back on you or becomes angry at you, then you know there is a problem, not w you tho, with this sucker liar. Some ppl have issues of their own that cause them to lie & cheat, it has nothing to do w you. These ppl believe the entire world owes them something. If this happens, then politely end the friendship. It is not worth losing your time, money or spirit over them.
Stop giving: If the confrontation went badly, then make a point to stop being so generous. They are probably going to keep taking from you until you are mentally, emotionally & financially tapped out. Ungrateful ppl seem to gravitate toward those who are generous, whether that is money, food, free service or a shoulder to cry on.
Stop doling out the generosity: There is no reason to exhaust your own resources on someone that doesn't care about you as a person. You know that things are not going to change unless you do the changing. Learn how to say no. If you do start saying no, don't be surprised if they stop calling & coming around.
Walk away: It may be tough to end a friendship, but sometimes you just have to walk away from blood suckers. Stop accepting their phone calls, stop hanging out w them & most of all, stop giving to them. End all communication & move on w your life & let them do the same thing. Cutting ties w ppl can be difficult, especially if they have been part of your life for a long time.
The reason you may have to walk away from the friendship is bc it is not healthy or productive for you. You keep giving & they keep taking & that is where the friendship stops. Realizing that they do not actually care about you is the number one reason to eliminate ungrateful people from your life.
Life is far too short to waste on activities & ppl who are unhealthy. Instead of continuing to devote time & energy to ppl who do not appreciate you, invest those precious commodities in ppl that actually care about & like you, for you, not your money.
...And They Know No Gratitude...
Gratitude, being nearly the greatest of human duties, is also nearly the most difficult,’ wrote G.K. Chesterton.
Recently I trusted a 'friend' with some money, which usually I spent on enhancing the work we do on our channel. He took the money and literary ran! How ungrateful I thought to myself & resented the trust I bestowed upon this individual. My own fault I said, how could I trust an invalid? Really how could I? What happened to friendship? Money will be replaced, but what about his integrity? Can he buy back his integrity or my trust? What about Karma? Don't these ppl believe in God?
Once again you have helped your friend out of another financial jam and, once again, he has shown absolutely no appreciation for your effort. What about last week when you sat & listened to him cry about how unfair life is to him all the time? You have arrived at the point where you are tired of coming to the rescue & never even receiving a simple "thank you." And not only that, but you've always been erroneously judged & accused, just for these suckers to get a good feeling about their loser selves. If these scenarios sound familiar, then you're dealing w an ungrateful person.
It is a hard pill to swallow when you go out of your way to help someone who does not appreciate it. Ungrateful people are part of the world and you will come across them from time to time. It is up to you how much of yourself you are willing to give to these suckers.
Confront: The first thing you should consider doing is talking to this ungrateful person. Let them know how you feel about the way they treat you. Give specific examples of how they stole from you or are otherwise ungrateful. Sometimes these thieves do not realize how rude they are being towards you when they accuse you just to get away and not having to pay you back. Most decent people will apologize & try to change their behavior, but an ungrateful thief will insist on his own lies & make up more to justify his lies.
On the flip side of the coin, this person tries to turn it back on you or becomes angry at you, then you know there is a problem, not w you tho, with this sucker liar. Some ppl have issues of their own that cause them to lie & cheat, it has nothing to do w you. These ppl believe the entire world owes them something. If this happens, then politely end the friendship. It is not worth losing your time, money or spirit over them.
Stop giving: If the confrontation went badly, then make a point to stop being so generous. They are probably going to keep taking from you until you are mentally, emotionally & financially tapped out. Ungrateful ppl seem to gravitate toward those who are generous, whether that is money, food, free service or a shoulder to cry on.
Stop doling out the generosity: There is no reason to exhaust your own resources on someone that doesn't care about you as a person. You know that things are not going to change unless you do the changing. Learn how to say no. If you do start saying no, don't be surprised if they stop calling & coming around.
Walk away: It may be tough to end a friendship, but sometimes you just have to walk away from blood suckers. Stop accepting their phone calls, stop hanging out w them & most of all, stop giving to them. End all communication & move on w your life & let them do the same thing. Cutting ties w ppl can be difficult, especially if they have been part of your life for a long time.
The reason you may have to walk away from the friendship is bc it is not healthy or productive for you. You keep giving & they keep taking & that is where the friendship stops. Realizing that they do not actually care about you is the number one reason to eliminate ungrateful people from your life.
Life is far too short to waste on activities & ppl who are unhealthy. Instead of continuing to devote time & energy to ppl who do not appreciate you, invest those precious commodities in ppl that actually care about & like you, for you, not your money.